Dealing with a broken heart
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Relationships come and go, it is a normal part of life. While relationships can be great sometimes they have to come to an end which can leave one person or the other with a broken heart. Sometimes the break ups can seem to come out of no where which not only leaves us with a broken heart but also stumbling to regain our composure after being knocked down. How does one get over that ex boyfriend or girlfriend? How can a person move on with life? How does a person get over a broken heart?
First and foremost, keep your thoughts positive. While a broken heart may hurt never think that your life is over. A lot of people go through this everyday. You are not alone.
After a break up always implement the NC (No Contact) rule. It is best to end your relationship with a clean and simple break. Speaking and/or seeing each other after a break up only helps to prolong the heart break.
Reconnect with old friends. Sometimes during a relationship we forget about our friends. Start talking to as many of your friends as you can. Chances are they have been through the same thing and might be able to offer some advice. Go out and have fun. Hanging out with old friends is a great way to get your mind off of your ex.
Keep yourself busy. Try starting up some old hobbies or finding new ones. Whatever keeps your mind off thinking about your ex. Hobbies are great tools because they keep your mind busy and occupied.
Try going to the local gym. Who would have ever thought working out would help you get over a broken heart? Not only does working out make you feel good about yourself it is a good way to let off a little steam. Not to mention you may see your ex again someday and you will want to look your best. If you can't afford a local gym membership try jogging. You can jog around the house or at a local park either way will help you release some frustration and burn some calories.
Go to your local bookstore and pick up something on the best sellers list. There is nothing like a good book to take a persons mind off of other things going on. Books can be useful in a breakup because they allow you to escape reality briefly and visit someone else's world.
Once you have had the proper amount of grieving time then it is time to get back into the dating scene. Start slow and don't jump in head first. You don't want to rush anything.
While a broken heart can hurt pretty bad just remember, this isn't the end of the world. Keep your head up and your mind off of your ex and you should come out of it with flying colors.
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If you want to get your ex boyfriend back, make sure you don't start acting too anxious or needy... he will pull away if you do.
I really like how are you shared a bit on the grieving process
He dumps me over msn and then he listens to my ex best friend who lies her head off and it really annoys me coz now he thinks that i am a dishonest, immature brat and a whore as well. i really liked him and he thinks i used him coz this ex best mate of mine who i am in a major fight with told him that i said if him and her didnt stop talking and stuff that i would tell everyone about her stepdad and that was a lie even now that we hate each other i still havent told anyone, he wont believe me coz of that lying bitch. i cant move on coz of this its been ages.
This really did help me out!! I just got out of a relationship last night. Its so horrible you do feel all by yourself even with family and friends all around you. I am doing a lilttle better but i am messing up!! i am still talking to him? It makes me feel calmer to talk to him but i know it just hurts me more in the long run.
thanks for the tips. i has been only 6 days since our breakup. everyday he has called and text me, begging for another chance. i always answered his calls/texts but it was so hard to keep telling him no when all i really wanted was to go back to him. i had been hurt too many times in our short relationship. today, however, was the first day he didn't call/text. maybe he gave up? either way, now i feel like i lost him, instead of him losing me. i know i am doing the right thing for myself, but it hurts so bad. its so hard when you put so much time, energy, faith and trust into one person only to have them throw it back in your face, as if it weren't good enough. i am so disappointed and let down by him and by myself. i just text him "goodnight" and he didn't answer....
i got dumped about a week ago i am still thinking of him and i cannot stop loving him , i am guing to try and follow these tips and see if it gives me any help. Hes now going out with someone else and it hurts so much seeing him with someone else and i dont think ill be able to move on ever he means the whole world to mee and im gunna try and do everything to get him back no mattter what it takes i am not giving up, but i am gunna try not to make it seem desperate/.
And xbftroubles same here he dumped me over msn. its so immature he coudnt even do it face to face.
Thanks for your sound advice. I was in a relationship for 5 years with an older woman and sadly back in march it came to a final conclusion. still now I am trying to cope with the loss of my partner and its comforting to think that there are others out there who's heart feels like its been crushed with a steamroller, i'm not alone. for months now I have been through denial, sadness and anger at how we are now apart. The other day I saw my ex by chance and I nearly swallowed my tongue. no physical pain can compare.
I will take heed of your words and let time do the healing, filling up my life as much as possible. Thanks again
I just had my heart split into 2, advise from a web page is not going to help me out, the only person that can is me, and I am to torn, alone, worthless to even try and help myself, I am sick of life but can not go that extra step to be over it, I never will, to weak she used to say all the time, and now, she just say's go ahead, she does not care, i do not see how she possible could, I love her, always will everything I do/see/wear reminds me of her, music, movies, the lot, i can not get her out of my head or this now broken split heart of mine, I hope the advise will help others, as for me, no, nothing will and can help me, I just want to fade away.
It's been over a month and i cry almost every night. I miss her smell, her kind eyes, her smile, everything. She's going to college far away in a few weeks. I've never been in so much pain. Nothing else even compares. In good time i hope i can learn to love again. It certainly doesn't feel that way right now though.
My bf just broke up with me after 7 years of being with each other.....and it hurts like crazy. Im still not over it and i dont know if i ever will be cuz we have been through a whole lot and i confided in him. After reading this ad i was surprised with whats been said on how to deal with a break up cuz all i do is think about being strong and trying to get through life and i just hope i can do it
To be honest i have been through so many relationships and there are so many games that couples play. Just remember that keeping in contact, doesnt help. It makes you want to talk and hear from them even more. You feel that no one else understands where your coming from, and thats true! because no one knows your feelings more then the way your self does. Focus on yourself! Motivate yourself! keep your faith high! don't let the world come tumbling down on your feet! Don't talk to them! show them that you are the better person by living your life to the fullest and if they really want you that bad, they will try and try until they succeed. Love works in mysterious ways, its part of life. Theres always a sunshine after the rain!! motivate yourself to do better!
me n my ex-bf were together for 2 years. We broke up last August 1st and I feel like I'm in a see saw. I had my good days and my bad days. The break up is mutual although he said we might be able to work something out somewhere down the line? It hurts eventhough I was the one who initiated the berak up. I've been moving on..some days are good, some are bad. It's true time heals wounds but you definitely need to do something also. Time won't just heal the pain itself if you don't put an effort. A lot of times I think about him, and when this happens, I start to divert my mind by thinking of something else. I still feel pain but then thinking of the bad things he'd done to me, helps me focus on sticking to my decision. Also, know that when you heal, and have an open heart, love will come back to you again. The longer you delay thea healing, the longer that new love will come. Do somethin good to make you feel better. It doesn't have to be expensive. As simple as reading a motivating stories and articles about dealing with broken relationships do help a lot. Stop thinking of getting back with your ex, cuz if it's meant to be, then you wouldn't be separated today. I strongly believe everyone's destined to be with somebody. Of course it will not just drop right in front of you. You will need to exert some effort too.
i'm going through a break up myself. I wish no one has to feel this kind of pain but it's part of life. Mine was destined to end from the start and it took a year for me to finally decide bec also i think a third or fourth party is already involved. what is very difficult is dealing with the pain, the yearning to see him and be with him one more time, wishing that things were different. a lot of emotions wasted for a year. stubborn heart...
Heart broken..depressed..wantin to go back in time and never knowin him at all..how could i have loved him so much? a heartless man..my feelings jus never mattered..God has given me a chance to amend my mistakes..we deserve a better person..and we wont fail ourselves again if we let go and move on..
I can't seem to cope well, still. I keep talking to him, trying to get him back, but he just doesn't seem interested. It's pulling me apart. Last night I was at my high schools football game and it was against his. Even though he was on the field playing just seeing his number on his jersy made me completely lose it and my friends had enough of it , I can't keep bringing them down too. I just want him back!! This sucks.
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The first man that I loved and told that I loved left me with no explanation or good reason. At the end of the "talk" he told me he didn't think he did ever love me.
It left me devistated. Especially because there was no warning signals or reason to be concerned. Went from hot to cold in a manner of days. The littlest of things can bring back a flood of emotions that i've tried to tuck away and move on from. This is my first real heartbreak, I'm 27 years old. It sure hurts like hell. I do agree that no contact is by far the BEST thing to do. It takes will power but it can be done. I've already implemented a lot of the tips from this article before even reading it. Really it's common sense. It'll come back when all the crying, depression...pizza/icecream/chocolate subsides. Promise. It's only been a month for me so far...but I see the silver lining and know even though it hurts like hell...the end of this relationship for me was for the best.
Hang in there broken hearted people. It get's better.
I'm only 15 but I feel like my life is already over now. I don't think anyone ever knew how I felt for her. Her smile, her cheeks, her long wavy hair, and those eyes. I could look into those eyes of hers for years and never want to look away. And that look of hers. Looking up to you so helpless and inisent but at the same time with that same smile. Thinking back feels like a dagger into my already smashed heart, altho, I still don't have it back. Thinking of everything we did togather and that look of hers, and relizing that it will never happen again In my whole life makes life seem so useless. Why bother continue if all that is allready gone? But it's everything. Everything I do, see, think of , makes me think of her. I realy truely hope that she will never have to feel the pain that I do because I know that she could never handle it. I can't seem to ... I'm so lost. I think I have 70 years left or so. I .....don't see any point in living it ... All of it's gone .... I have already lived.... It's really sad.. I admit.. Please nobody else feel like I do....it's really really horrable... I much rather feel phyical pain because seeing her everyday and knowing that we will never be togather again, hurts so unbarabley. I hope she will never have to feel this.
He dumped me 2 and half months ago, over somethng so small, it tore me into pieces bt i tried hard to survive, 2weeks ago he started texting that he misses me so we got back together coz i stil love hm. Bt then i realised tht he never apologised4having hurt me so much, and ths was the 3rd time he does so, i saw hm for wht he realy is n decided to end it. I love hm so much and it hurts me bt i knw he isnt ryt4me, and he'l only hurt me again. I hav exams next week im in lawschool bt i cnt concentrate. I walk around scared of running in2hm n i cry myself2sleep daily. Bt i believe a day wil come when it wil nt hurt anymore and the world wil look bright again..
you guys can do it, u CAN get thru this!! I. I was with my high school sweetheart for 5 yrs and our breakup was devastating to my mental and physical health. I never could see the end to my suffering, but God gave me the strength to see better days. Now I just ended another 5 yr relationship to an older Guy who I could never get around to trusting after his games. The cycle begins again. when the tears stop coming Ill be able to stand again. I have faith God will carry me thru this. He never closes one door without opening another...
I just got out of my two year relationship. this is my first time ever being heartbroken; it hurts. The weird thing is I broke up with him and wanted him back. I stood there infront of him, not even that worked for him to come back to me. I feel so stupid,I keep trying to talk to him and its only making things worse :(. I know that it cannot stay depressing like this forever but it comforts me knowing others are going through the same thing. My advice is NOT to talk to that person AT ALL! If that doesnt work, then maybe its time to move on, like me. Things happen for a reason. Thx guys :'( I hope things get better.
i thought i cant survived after m divorce,but then i injoyed life again when ive found new love,but juz 2 days from now im broken hearted again,i jus broke with him after he acused me of sleeping with onother man..which is i never did.ive been honest and been faithful with him during our relationship....thats killed me.its hard,i think i cant move on like what i did after my divorce,as im frighten to fall in love and to hurt again.
i cant get her out of my head, and everytime i see our son, i think of her, most days i feel alone, others i want to die. i blame myself for her leaving. we were together for 3 years. my son is about to be 3. i am 21 and i already feel like my life is over. i wish i could get her back. i saw her today for the first time in 6 months. she is getting married in january. i still love her, and i miss the way she smelled. i want to die
Hey, stuck on her. Remember you are young with years ahead of you. Rejoice in the fact that you have proved that you are capable of loving someone. I was heartbroken in my 20's and spent my 30's loveless. Now in my mid forties I have been in the best relationship of my life and the split has left me more heartbroken than in my 20's! You, and hopefully I, will love again but choose wisely!
how do i let go of her
It was short, but i fell in love from the first day we met... we met in such unusual way, it seemed like it had to be it.
Now i am heartbroken, think of things i should have done better. I do not know how I will get through this.
Went from right to nothing and from absolutely hot to stone cold in a matter of days... life sucks
LOVE IS STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!! PEOPLE FALL IN LOVE AND GET HURT ALL THE TIME SO WHATS THE POINT ANYWAY?????? ITS A WASTE OF TIME....FALLING IN LOVE IS LIKE SATAN...YEAH HE WILL BRING U UP MAKE U HAPPY AND IN THE END HE WILL BRING U DOWN N LAUGH IN UR FACE....SO WHATS TRUE LOVE ANYWAY NO ONE WILL EVER KNOW I GUESS.....I FELL IN LOVE WITH A GIRL WHO DIDNT EVEN LIKE ME IN THE FIRST PLACE AND NOW ALL SHE DOES IS LIE AND CHEAT ON ME AND I ALLOW IT CUZ IM A HELPLESS FOOL. I ABANDONED MY FAMILY JUST SO I CAN BE WITH HER I STOPPED TALKING TO ALL MY FRIENDS AND STOP CARING ABOUT MYSELF NOT CARING ABOUT MY HEALTH OR ANYTHING...I FEEL STUPID BUT ITS SO HARD TO LET GO ITS BEEN 3 YEARS...AND IVE DONE SO MUCH WITH HER BEEN THREW SO MUCH....HOW DO U FIND THE WORDS TO SAY GOODBYE...,
everyone will get through...
someday i will have my happiness back as everyone will and did :)
Well I was on and off with him since 2003. He knew I always wanted a son and he had one with another woman and lied to me until I found out myself.
The child was 2months. Now the child is two years old. I havent had contact with him since Sept/Oct of 2009, but Im still so hurt. I made the mistake and got nosey and looked on his myspace and seen that he is messing with his son's mom again but he has other females as well.
He is a selfish player and all the girls know this that he has. I always bitched to him and never got over him having a son.
He wouldnt leave me alone for the last three years even though I would change my number and not have any contact. Finally I was able to say some things to him that I felt would make him leave me alone and it has seemed to work so far.
I made the mistake today and went on myspace as I mentioned earlier and now Im heartbroke. I was doing ok. I guess I wanted to see if I was completely over him. Well, seeing that he is messing with his son's mother today is killing me.
He isnt a good guy at all. He technicially has six kids by five different woman, with one of them be put up for adoption when he was a teenager. He does take care of all his kids.
It just kills me that he had this son and Ive always wanted one and for him to be doing things with her and their child is more than I can bear. I know he doesnt care about any of these girls other than what they can do for him. He once said to me that they are like cattle. It doesnt matter if they have his kid. Doesnt mean he likes them or respects them. I even met one of his children's mother and she said he liked me, but he never will be loyal.
I know that what I said above equal me having very low self esteem for me to put up with that even though I was forced to. He would show up, not leave, etc. As if he owned me.
I feel like Im never going to get over this ladies man. I just do not know what to do at this point. I need some support.
Thank you for listening. My heart hurts so bad. I havent cried over him in a month. When do you stop loving someone. Not only is my heart broken my soul is severly broken.
keep getting a relapse and thinking about him. im a guy, and hes a guy too. cant tell you why we broke up, unexplainable, trying to kill the love in me that i had in him. very difficult, why do we as human beings have to go through such? and it took me long to trust and believe in him.
There is a reason for storms in our lives sometimes they prepare us and build us for our ultimate purpose, sometimes they are a test of faith. You don’t always get to choose your storms and the ones that come to us aren't always the ones we would choose.and like many storms some can be enormous and others rather small. but we are never given anythnig we cant handle. this is too all of you who like me and many others are going through a heart break ive gone through it twice im onlhy 22 first with my parents death and second with the man i loved....but everything will come to past and when the stome is over there will be the sun shining ever brighter
I just read most of these comment and I think me startin off with a good book will help me see I'm married and when times get hard in our life he run off and leave me to pay the bills and rent by my self then when its all done he come home and want to work this out I let him cause I love him but how do u let go a love u know is not rite but u don't want to be with out see I'm not only hurtin over this I'm deling with death of my bestfriend for over 6 years and now my husband just walked out but I will try my heardes to be strong and do a few of these thing on here.
im married but separated more than a year, the one who broke my heart is the next guy i met. the pain is more painful more than my ex-husband broke up with me. i fell inlove with him so much until i realised he was cheating on me. he wont admit it even the other girl already revealed everything that they have a relatioship. this is not the first time he broke my heart but i cant let him go, but i guest im at his end, i cant stand the pain that he cheated on me and lied to me, and saying the same thing to me as with the other girl. but seeing all this comments made me realize im not the only one...i wish the pain would all go away...i will do my best not to contact him anymore.. i know god has a reason for all of these.
the love of my life just broke up with me last night..i havent stopped crying since. hobbies don't work because we had a lot of the same ones so it makes it harder..my friends don't help because they loved him too and just say they don't understand..i just want him to come to his senses and realize he loves me too.
I am going on 2 years trying to get over a girl I should have known better than to trust. I always think about her even though I know she's trash. I wish she's move to Mars or just move far away forever.
I fell in love with a pretty but naive 20 year old girl at work. She loved me to be around me. I could make her smile every moment of every day - it was easy. She was so bubbly and virginal I fell in. Along came a crystal meth adict and he tried to seduce her and she fell for it. She didn't know he was living on meth. When the addiction became a problem i was told to fire him as that's my job but she called it jealousy - she said I was possessive. I wasn't. I actually loved her in the dark and had never propositioned her. I was never going to have a relationship with her as she is just growing up. I can't tell her why he was fired as the bank I work for has forbidden me from talking to protect it's reptation. She is now trying to hurt me for it by seducing my friends. I am a broken man. I can't tell my friends either because they think what she thinks. I love her so much and her work station is within earshot of mine. We don't talk anymore. We were close friends. I have no idea what to do. I can't sleep at night and am losing weight rapidly. I have never felt so alone in all my life. Please help.
Its been since 3 days and im crushed. ive tried to do other thing like help my mom paint her wall in the back yard but seems nothing that i do is helping .. i cant sleep and i cant eat..i feel so sad .. he broke up with me because his bestfriend feels neglected and thinks he spends to much time with me (which is once a week because he lives 45 min away from me) i have never felt so down. i cant believe this is happening to me .. we were doing great ..this came out of nowhere!!! i wish God could just heal my heart already!!! everything i see or hear reminds me of him, i cant think of seeing another guy or even imagine kissing somone new =( im screwed !
only time will tel..
this has helped me....although i havent been dumped.....my bf treats me really bad and the only option for me now after 7 years is to leave and its heartbreaking.....he stays out every weekend....drinks all the time....turns his phone off constantly.....never wants to spend time together...puts me down with verbal abuse...makes me feel ugly....never there when i need him...god i could go on....how sad am i staying in this relationship??? thing is he doesnt care one bit??? about nothing?? if i left 2moro i dont think he'd even notice.....feel so small and hurt :-(
I know I'm at fault. I hurt her over a year ago, but didn't realize how much. I took her for granted and because we'd been married 9 years and together for 9 before that, I assumed we could make it through anything. Now she's met someone else and although she claims to love me, she says she loves this other person as well. In the last 3 months, I've lost 15 pounds. Thought about killing myself, started taking depression medication, and occassional anti-anxiety medication. I'm in weekly therapy. I am absolutely devasted. I don't know how to pull myself out of this. We still live together and we have a 3 year old son. I hurt so bad.
It's been nearly 6months since we broke up. But we've been seeing each other eve after the break up. Now i realize it just made it worse. It was like getting dumped twice when he finally told me it was officially over and he's given up. Dagger stabbing my heart.. That's what i feel. I've been so depressed. Ican't eat, my immune system is affected too. I just feel like dying now. And i dont know what to do. I've been through alot just to have him. And just because of 1 stupid mistake he dumped me. It is hurting me so bad that i'm considering ending my life right now.
Been with my girl 13 years, through thick and thin. When she was very poorly, I got her the care she needed, ran the home and earned the cash.
I've been totally faithful thoughout our relationship, even though people have tried to tempt me. She withdrew the physical side and I still stayed, out of love. I've alienated my family, I have no friends left, I stupidly dedicated myself to her.
I had a bout of depression last year, suicidal depression, she wasn't there for me. Mainly brought on by a friend suggesting that my partner was cheating with a friend of mine,I fell apart. An online friend was there for me, and comforted me, made me feel special. I felt guilty about my bond with an online friend and told my partner, who didn't deal with it very well.
I found some messages from this person on my partners phone, telling each other that they wanted each other etc. I asked my partner to be truthful and she just said it was because I was mental, I was reading things that weren't there.
I have spent over a year being torturted and tormented and made to look a fool, eating shit over nothing and then she confeses to me that something did happen with the girl I knew about. She said it was physical and passionate and will say nothing more about it. It was like a steel blade sliding into me, why?!!
So here I am, devestated, about to sell my home, unable to purchase another one... thinking all kinds of bad things, like when I went away to give my partner space, was she doing this girl in my bed?
All of my family live abroad, friends I had drifted due to the nature of my relationship, others belived my ex that I was mad (I'm not I was just tormented) and the rest have discovered what she's done and are siding with the other girl.
I feel so betrayed, it's the cheating, lying, mental conditioning and playing with me. She tells me every day that she will love me foerver, I just don't understand, she comes into my room and tries to cuddle me and playfight, I just want to kill her right now. I have to live with her until the house sells, then I'm clueless as to how to move on.
This hurts so very very badly, I just can't stop crying, I feel alone and so so small :'(
She won't leave me alone,
just broke up while ago...what's worst,i dnt know what really had caused the break up...he just texted me bout something that was so vagued so i texted back clarifying the thing...but he assumed that i didnt agree to what he just texted when in fact,i was just clarifying it...he ignored me at first.i tried reaching out to him but he's so sarcastic and dont wanna to talk to me anymore...got nothing to do but to withdraw myself ,too..
Well, like many folks on here, I've recently had to let a loved on go. He was my chocolate heaven and over a year's time, I grew to love him dearly. After realizing that he only enjoyed me for the happiness I gave him, but he was still seeing others, I asked to move to the next level so I would know that he was also giving me 100% of himself in return. He is unable to make that commitment and blames it on "faulty wiring" of his own. He wants me to move on despite not wanting to let me go - because he recognizes that I deserve better. I've been in many relationships and had many heartbreaks, and have gotten through all of them with positivity and occupying myself with other things. However, this one I think will be hardest for me because he will continue to be there for me until I find someone else. I'm not sure if I should sever the ties entirely or not. He may be standing in the way of me ever finding true love. My heart and mind desperately want him to be the trule love, but he says he's not capable. I've never had a man show me so much passion and I've never met a smarter man with more going for him than my CH. However, he can't possibly be doing me any good if he doesn't think enough of me to fully commit.
These kinds of relationships are harder to break because there's no fight, no bitterness, no betrayal. Just realizing that one is doing all the giving and the other is doing all the receiving is a slow but hard bullet. I know I will have to sever the ties completely so I can properly move on, but in the meantime, I am grateful for being cared for at all. He knows I love him, and I think he loves me, but he loves his freedom more. All I keep thinking is, if you love something, set it free - if it's yours, it will return to you.
being active makes you not even noticing the heart break...? is this true...? if yes, then i should be going back to my previous lifestyle just before i had my first serious relationship
ive just recently broken up with my ex fiancee and am finding the pain too much to handle we were engaged,moved countries to start a better life found good jobs fly in fly out jobs but still saw each other regulary to save money for the wedding.We moved in with her parents to get us on our feet and i have no family over here we only been in the country 11 months and she broke it off with me 6 days ago. now i have nowhere to go im still living with her parents where im more than welcome here to stay as long as i want but it aint the same and is just goin to make things awkward she has gone back to work and am stuck here thinking what to do?
she tells me she still loves me and i still love her we are still talking she broke it off with me because we both wanted to go travelling but she wanted to travel single at the same.we had so much plans now im feeling lost and confused do i go back home to my family? shall i fight for her? which ive tried but no bites im just going to give her time to think about it for now
Our relationship lasted last 11 years n we both wanted to marry each other but i dnt knw wat happened to him suddenly he stepped back nt even giving me a call on our loe aniversary iam deeply hurt
its been six and a half long years we broke up my heart still so much in love with her why? I find my self crying my self to sleep each night wondering why? what happened ?
everyone telling me you just thought you loved her if that the case why do I still feel this way I have tried to move on but always end back in the same place its not fare why do I still hurt so much why do the tears still fall . will they ever go away will my heart ever harden .
I have pretty much given in have had no contact with this person for six and half years and for the last week I have started talking to her again I know it will still hurt but I have been hurting all this time I figure might aswell try being friends with atleast she is in my life to some extent and hopefully i can find peace in just that . I pray for that anyways probly kidding my self but what do i have to loose
I started seeing a girl I knew for years and at first we had a really good friendship. She was living with another bloke but she had told me and a lot of other people that she wasnt happy and that he had cheated on her twice. At first I didnt want to get involved because I knew him but she kept on telling me how much I meant to her and how much she loved me so I stuck with it. I didnt like all the sneaking about and the lies and begged her to tell him and leave him. She wanted him to feel unhappy and to end it for her. As will all these things he finally found out and she stayed with him. I never heard nothing from her in over two weeks when I finally sent her a email and we started talking again. She said she felt so guilty at what she had done but still loved me and wanted to be with me and so we started seeing eachother again. Each time I was with her it was brilliant but I knew she was always going back home to him. This hurt like hell but then I was becoming used to it. Our relationship was an odd hour here and there and emails and texts. I begged her to just leave him like she said and she told me that she would. as the weeks went by I kept on asking her and she said she needed more time. In the months that we had been together I have lost my friends and a job and risk losing my house because I put my faith and trust in her. I gave her one final choice him or me and still she said it would always be me but that she still needed time. I knew that I could not give her anymore because it was killing me inside just been away from her and I couldnt risk losing anything else and so I ended it with her. I had taken a load of the things she had given me back round her house and left them on her door step because I could not have them in my home anymore as I knew it would bring back the memorys. She thought that I was wanting to get my own back on her for the pain and hurt she had caused me but she was wrong. I know that she would have to explain to him that she had been seeing me again but that wasnt my problem anymore. I did email her to say that I was sorry for doing it but I felt I had to do what was right for me. I also told her that I thought she was very selfish for saying that she wanted me and yet staying with him. Its true what they say that time heals and my advice to anyone reading this is to never try and talk to them or see them. I do love the girl with all my heart and i suppose that I always will but my life must go on. I know that as I am getting on with my life she is still stuck in the same negative relationship with the bloke she doesnt love. Each relationship leaves us with lessons about eachother. I learnt that its never wise to give someone 100% trust at first and to allow that to build up over time. Also not to get involved with someone who was already in a relationship with another person but hey love is blind!
On wards and up wards as they say and an ex is an ex for a reason, always remember that. There is someone out there for everone but the most important thing is to let go of the past and understand that it is always going to be their loss as they no longer have you in their life.
Good look and keep your chin up, it always does work out right in the end ;-)
It's been 3 months since my gf and I broke up. I was devastated at the time, especially since I could've avoided the break-up if I'd have been faster. After 3 weeks I found out she was sleeping with another guy for 2 weeks. I got severely depressed, especially after some other crappy stuff in my life happened.
Right now, I am mostly recovered. Through a lot of conversations with my friends and family, I managed to see things in perspective. She meant everything for me, but if she can really have another serious relationship so fast after the break-up, she just didn't love me enough for it to last a whole lifetime. She just isn't worth my love.
We still see eachother once and a while, especially since we have a lot of mutual friends, but she just ignores me. I don't think she's dealing with this the right way (starting another relationship so fast and ignoring me completely), but that just further proves that I should forget about her completely and move on.
The sad thing is I'd probably still take her back if she'd ever came back to me (honestly, I doubt her new relationship will last). I still have dreams about such things happening, even though there are more than enough girls who would like to go out with me. I honestly wouldn't know what to do if my ex came back... There is no script for love and a broken heart.
If I can give any advice to people who cannot seem to get over a break-up: talk with your friends and family. Try to see everything in perspective. Is your ex even worth all that love you gave him/her? Do you really want to be together with a person who treated you like that or who was able to end it all so quickly/coldly?
In the end everything always works out.
I am super selective and after long years of search I found someone I could call my soul mate... We shared a lot in common, our story was full of magic coincidences. However he was fresh from a break-up (left by his wife) and didn't take time to heal before meeting me. In my turn, I sensed smth wrong and insisted we stay friends for a while. No long after he said he realized he wasn't over his ex. He wanted to remain friends but I knew I can't see him anymore since I'm clearly attracted to him physically and mentally.
To get over it, I started a blog on on-line dating (we met on eharmony) I'll be greatful for your comments:
It is so hurt when he just broke up with me and go out with other woman. I do not want to be crazy but I do not know how to get over him. I miss him badly and think about him all the time.
she just broke up with me, and the painful thing is she wont tell me why, it hurts so bad. i didnt see that one coming.
I met this colleague 20yrs ago and felt deeply in love that we start off our relationship. We were very happy for 9 long years. My other colleagues, both sexes, like to confide in me their family problems. Once he saw me talking to another male colleague and he got jealous and worried I will leave him that he cried. I assured him my love and am just lending a listening ear. Then overnight, I came to know he just started off an affair with my good friend and intend to dump me. I have done nothing wrong so confronted him but he said he can't get back to me. He then left the company. I shed silent tears, can't get over him. 12 years already, I still think of him very much. Just beginning this year, he came back as a contract staff and approached me that he still loves me. Of course I was very happy thinking he has already left that bitchy friend. Only barely 3 months back into our relationship again did I found out that he still stick to her. I then insisted him leave her if he still want me. He told me he has got so used to having her these 12yrs tho no longer love and need time to break. I have been making a fuss of it that again he dumped me 2nd time saying that I irritates him. That was one week, I do feel hurt and cried and hopefully not as bad as the 1st time. Not that I have no other guys but I just don't want anything to do with them. No matter how this guy treat me, I only love him. Do I need to wait for another 10yrs??
My life has no meaning without him, for more than a year av loved him, but he doesnt' he just f..cks and goes. Am a livingdead
I can feel your unbearable pain very much. Love is not for everyone. Leave your ex partner, who broke up with you, alone and do not even try to contact your ex partner. If you follow the rule of "no contact", then maybe your ex partner may come back or not. If your ex partner comes back with you, then it will be a very high risk since your ex partner may broke up with you again and it will delay your hurting process in many months. It took me one year to recover from my heart broken. Love can make people sick mentally and physicially. That is your choice.
My ex intend 2 marry n he told me 1day earler he stil claim he loves me n it was nt his fault bt hs parents forced him am feeling empty right nw i lved him soo muc idnt if ma life wil ever b the same again
We've been together for almost a year, it was going to be our year anniversary and she left me for another guy. She always promised to keep my heart safe and love me forever. After our breakup she calls me usually to tell me she loves me and it is so confusing for me because I don't know what to believe and she asks me to take her back but I try so hard to resist but its so hard.
i was in a relationship with a muslim guy for 2 1/2 years,he's a very nice man we goes along well...after 10 years away from his family he went home for 2 months vacation and BANG! he's married when he come back,he was overwhelmed with his environment and now he is back in the real world crying over me telling me that he missed and love me so much and he wish he's dead!but regrets always come at the end,i can't be a mistress!i love him so much but sometimes we just have to accept that happy times will end there's always an expiration,people will always come and go...after reading all ur comments helps a lot,he wants us to communicate and YES!it will be the best not to do it,thanks!
Just a quick update. I had a couple of spells cast on an ex of mine, he was my ex-boyfriend and an ex-business partner so I was doubly hurt. I never wanted to cause him physical harm but wanted him to suffer for what he had done to me. I went to the freemercytemple@yahoo.com to cast a revenge spells on him,but i laugh because the spell that I requested still make me and my friend had a good laugh at the final outcome. I did eventually reverse all spells cast on him (yes I felt bad), but not before he had lost pretty much everything and moved in with his mom. Even his dog rejected him. The guy just couldn’t catch a break. The freemercytemple@yahoo.com just make him come to me for a hug forgiveness although he has lost everything i still pretty love him.
Hi, i am so lonely my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me, threw me out of his house and has completely cut me off he hasnt said one word to me in 5 weeks. I lost my job at christmas and now this, he said he felt trapped. I feel like i cant go on, i pictured us married with children in a few years. How can someone be so cruel as to cut you off like you are nothing. I feel worthless did i ever mean anything at all. I feel like a failure i cant get a job and the man I loved and would do anything for disregards my existence i am nothing. I have cried for 5 weeks now I barely even leave the house except to look for a job once a week. what can i do to stop feelin worthless and invisible. I have never loved anyone so much what is the point in going on. I try and try and give so much and always fail
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hi, i'm krishma my bfnd hate me he's bored me i really luv him but he's hate me in 2 month's i am sad i'm not forget him. i'm not heppy
My Name is Ms. path tom, I was married to my husband for 13 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2009 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when i called him, he don't longer pick up my calls and he nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady. Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But i told her that if it has to do with things that i am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. but the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number. When i contacted him, i was so surprise when he said that if i have the faith that i will get my husband back in the nest three [3] day, and off which it was really so. but i was so shock that i did not pay any thing to Dr.Magbu but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price i have to pay. This man Magbu is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address reunitingexspell@gmail.com
brokenhearted 3 years ago
this advice made me think & talking to my ex bf is bad cuz it makes me sad and feeling like crap . i should follow these rules , they will probably help alot .